how to talk about sex with your partner: it’s healthy to talk about your sex life!

Talking about sex can be empowering, fun, pleasurable, uncomfortable, weird, silly, or anything in between. Sex lives are different for everyone, and discovering how you can openly discuss yours in a way that works for you can bring a world of exploration and excitement to your relationships. 

Here at ONE®, we think talking openly about sex and sexuality is a great thing.  

For a lot of people, sex is an incredibly important part of being a human being. Many of us enjoy it (and it’s okay if you don’t!), and sex can help people feel emotionally fulfilled. Being able to share turn-ons with each other in a safe, respectful environment is a fantastic way to strengthen relationships and increase pleasure for both partners.

Key Takeaways (TL;DR) Talking About Sex With Your Partner(s) 

• Having open discussions with your partner(s) about sex is healthy and can help to enhance your sex life. 
• Starting the conversation with a little humor can help to ease the tension and make the sex talk more comfortable. 
• Communicating your desires can help you and your partner discover new things to try in the bedroom making it a better experience for both of you. 
• Not only does having an honest and open conversation about sex help improve intimacy, it can also improve your health by reducing stress and increasing self-esteem.  

Keeping Things Playful

Much of the current conversation surrounding our sex lives has to do with consent. While that’s an incredibly important area, it’s also important to discuss and explore your own desires — and what your partner might like, too.

Adding a little humor into the conversation can be a great way to start. Maybe you start by talking about the awkward time you fell off the bed, or accidentally poured lube all over the place. And then you can continue and say, "You know what that reminds me I've wanted to talk to you about trying something new." Laughing with (not at) your partner can help make talking about sexual health a lot easier — and fun!

All Kinds of Healthy Benefits

When we honestly share how we truly feel about sex, we’re helping our overall health, too! That can include reduced stress, increased self-esteem, positive relationship experiences, and the amazing hormones that get released during caring sex. You're telling yourself that you deserve to have pleasure — and with a partner that cares about your needs. 

Go Forth and Share

The more open you are about your desires, the better you'll often feel when getting frisky in between the sheets. Even if your partner is not into the same things, you can communicate and talk about mutual desires and what you may want to try together. Maybe it's spanking, a little role play, a new position, trying a glow-in-the-dark condom, measuring, custom condoms, or trying some toys together.

Setting aside time to have this conversation ahead of time (you know, before the sex) is a great way to make space for sharing your desires. If you’re with someone new, talking ahead of time about contraception helps to make sure that you’re both on the same page.

So why wait? Be open about what turns you on and you’ll reap the rewards when it comes to your own pleasure (and your partner’s too). Mind-blowingly good sex is a prize worth working towards, and you deserve every minute of it!

Conclusion

In short: Talking about sex, discussing what turns you on, and bringing up new positions, condoms, lubes, toys, flavors, (you fill in the blanks), that you'd like to try, not only brings you closer to your partner, but can unlock outstanding sexual possibilities you may not even have known were possible. 

We're here to help you find your next fave! ONE® Condoms come in a variety of different shapes, sizes, textures, and flavors, try one or try them all to spice up your sex life. 

FAQs 

What is considered a healthy sex life? 

A healthy sex life is one that works for you. There is no right answer, you may be interested in having sex daily or not at all, and both of these (and everything in between) is perfectly okay. Being open about this with your partner can increase satisfaction and allow you to understand each other's sex drive. 

When should you talk about sex in a new relationship? 

Talking about sex in a new relationship can be tricky and unfortunately there is no perfect, magic answer. However, discussing sex early on can help to gauge if you are sexually compatible as long as both parties are at a comfortable point to discuss sex.